Beautiful Modesty

When the topic of clothes (skirt length, sleeve length, size too small) comes up in our church, I immediatly think uh ohhhh. While sitting down I unconsciously pull down on my skirt to cover any showing knees and reach to my neckline to tug up on that too. Wow, I think. These folks REALLY care about how we women dress! And in essence our church leaders really DO care about how we ladies dress (as well as our parents). With all do respect, they are doing us ladies a huge favor believe me!!!

God has made us women (and all people in general) for a purpose: to glorify the Lord in our bodies and souls just like the bible teaches. We are a unique creation beautiful and feminine. We ARE girly, giggling, emotional creatures! We do need that respect, love, and appreciation from those around us. We as women have that certain charm and way of dressing ourselves that really attract those around us.

But sadly, most of the young women today have the mistaken belief that "undressing" themselves will earn them that attention that they deserve.

We see a degrading society where women are just objects to look at and discard. In our brains we think that that's really what can catch a guy's attention, I mean after all, that's what our glossy fashion magazines portray! They portray a woman's outer beauty and overexposed body as the most essential part of a woman. But heyyy... who cares about the inner beauty!! We want to show what can be seen!


Hey ladies?


...Trash that belief!!!

Today we will be talkin about what REALLY attracts a guy... and I WILL cite my sources!!!

I came upon a really handy resource for all young women who are interested in checking it out. This is a modesty survey in which men were asked many questions such as what men think is modest (like jeans, length of skirt, jewelry...etc.) on a young lady. Keep in mind that men of all ages were asked these questions and many said one thing... they are more attracted to a modest woman than a woman who undresses to impress. (survey URL: http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/browse) Also, there is a blog by Christy Taylor who invited a male guestblogger to give women a man's perspective on how men view modest women. http://www.empoweredtraditionalist.com/2008/08/27/what-guys-love-about-modest-girls/.

So often (me included) we forget to ask the question...who am I dressing for? When I walk out of that, door, will I be a stumbling block to other men (married or unmarried)? I have heard from other men, (several actually) that openly admit that it is a temptation when a young lady is overly exposed and especially in a church setting. People come to church to praise the Lord and give Him all the attention, but instead, the attention is on certain young ladies who do not realize that other men around them are being led into temptation and even more led into the sin of lust. We know perfectly well that God does not tolerate these sins. And we aren't even talking about our world outside of church yet ladies!!!

One gentlemen from Christy Taylor's blog writes. “If I could say anything to the women in the church, it would be this. First, there is not a man I know that doesn’t in some way struggle with lust. If they had any idea what went through guys minds it would probably vastly change the way they dress. Secondly, and I think most importantly, God has created his church to be a resting place for Christians, to be a place where people can encounter God with out all the distractions. It is disappointing when I walk into the church or an event with the church and have deal with the same temptations I that face in the world. But I rejoice whenever I see a girl or women who is attempting to serve the lord and guys by dressing modestly. You have no idea how sweet and challenging it is when I see a women who has decided not to flaunt her body like the culture shouts for her to do but rather she has decided that serving the lord and her brothers is more important. Glory to God for women like that! " (What Guys Love About Modest Women, by Christa Taylor)

Another young man says: “You have no idea how much it means to me as a guy when I see girls who are doing their best to be modest. These are girls that I feel completely comfortable being friends with, and by their actions they demand my respect. Modesty will win you the friendship of guys who will care about you as a person and will see you as a sister in Christ before they see you as anything else…” (What Guys Love About Modest Women by Christa Taylor)

And so in my conclusion I would like to say that we as women owe it to the men around us to spare them from temptaion and sinful lust. They have enough to deal with in our sinful society with its provocative fashion.

Also check out this URL about what men love about girls: http://www.empoweredtraditionalist.com/2009/02/24/10-things-guys-love-about-girls-part1/

...do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:20

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30